Everyone going to college except me and I don’t know what to do.
The past week has been a little rough, honestly. I am seeing all the back to school post, first day of school, left my heart at college and so on. All these post has my mind constantly racing.
What are my options? Why don’t I know what I am feeling? I need advice?
No College For Me
From freshman year in high school, I knew college was not for me. I did not like going to the same building everyday. Sitting for eight hours a day was not for me. After two years in high school, I switched to online school, got a job, and realized college was not for me. When I graduated in December of 2023 the idea of moving to Colorado for a seasonal job came to my mind. This idea did not go anywhere so, I applied and here we are, out in the beautiful state of Colorado.
Even though I love it out here, I am still feeling all the feelings about not going to college. I may always have second thoughts about college, but right now, I am doing what I am meant to be doing. I have found myself by not going to college.
Options
Options after high school are unique and varied.
Dive right in.
Apply for that job. Enlist in the army. Take a gap year. College universities will always be around but the availability to travel may not be. Volunteer somewhere. Pack your bags and move away. Become a seasonal worker at The YMCA Of The Rockies. Start your own business.
There are so many other options that are available to you just look for them. You aren’t signing your life away when you look at indeed for jobs or if you look on coolworks.
Options are just options, and life will be filled with them. I have been overwhelmed by all the options out there and still even thought I have looked still don’t know which one to choose.
Be realistic. Be honest with your self.
Feeling lost With YOUR Feelings
I am lost with my feelings, and you might be too.
Life would be easy if we knew we could just follow the feelings. Let’s pretend for a moment that I did- maybe I would be applying for nanny jobs in Wyoming, or maybe rescuing a dog to travel the states, camping in the car or in a tent.
I want an answer to these feelings right now, but I want the right answer. I’ve started having quiet time during my day, either in the morning or the afternoon, where I just sit and journal down whatever comes to mind. After the first couple of journal entries, it became easier to write down what I’m feeling.
Sit in silence for a little bit, or go on a walk to understand and find your feelings. Be rational. Determine what’s real and what’s not real.
YOUR FEELINGS ARE YOUR FEELINGS. Whether people try to change them or not, they can’t.
Find your feelings.
Advice To Those Not Going To College
To whoever is reading this you are not alone.
Even though you are seeing all the social media post about college, it doesn’t mean you are meant to go. Don’t focus on not having it all together, instead focus on what you have right now. Nobody has it all together; we are all just part of a spinning sphere trying not to fall off.
Be present and peaceful.
APPLY FOR THAT JOB: Military, seasonal, blue collar, caregiving, coffee shop, restaurant, etc.
TRAVEL THE WORD: Camp, hike, walk, run, drive, bike, bus, fly, etc.
FIND YOURSELF.
